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Real Men Do Love Cats

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Asa, with his "Best Bud," Bubba

Franny Syufy
I received an email from a reader that voiced the same feelings I've heard expressed thousands of times, but which was all the more special because it came from a guy rather than a woman:

    "I fully agree..how could they ever be just pets?

    My three are my kids and are treated just like the rest of the family. They are the happiest and most loving cats I've ever seen."

My reply to his last sentence was, "Of course! That's because they have you."

Although I am the resident "cat lady" on this site, the true crazy-about-cats-can't-get-enough-of-them ailurophile in my household today is my son, Lance, who inherited his passion for cats from his father, Asa. Because I spent a large part of my childhood moving from state to state as an "Army brat," I didn't have a lot of experience with cats until I was a teenager. Asa, however, claimed to have been raised by a cat, one Tinker, who came along when Asa was about six and went to Rainbow Bridge just about when Asa entered high school. I met Buffer and Spunky soon after starting to date Asa, and in no time at all I knew if I wanted to score points with this guy, I'd better become a cat lover. Having had a couple of kitties of my own by then, that was no problem at all, and look where it led me, over fifty-five years later.

What's the Connection? Gary, our former host of the Cats Forum, was wondering about the same conundrum. Why do some people dislike cats, and is it entirely gender-related, or could it be how you were raised?

    So why do people dislike cats? I think it has something to do with ignorance. With guys especially, I think it has something to do with the fact that a cat is perceived to be more like a V.W. "Bug" than a 4WD Ram Truck, In other words, a girls' pet, not a guy's pet. I also think that in some cases of abuse, the guy abuses the cat as an extension of abusing the spouse. Fortunately, as you all have pointed out many times, there are also a lot of guys who like cats openly or secretly (why would liking cats have to be a secret - what does that tell us?), and who become converts once they live with cats for a while.

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